Ever find yourself standing in the pantry, pondering the options for a midday snack when your energy dips? Do you negotiate the wine on a Tuesday night, even though you committed that you would reserve the pinot for weekends only? Do you feel like you have too many things on your to-do list?
Often we try to fight these urges and unhelpful habits by arguing with ourselves.
“I want this”.
“I shouldn’t have this”.
“Just this one time won’t hurt”.
“I can make up for it tomorrow”.
“If I have it now I’ll be less likely to indulge later on”.
And it’s exhausting.
There’s another way… start asking QUESTIONS.
Questions are POWERFUL. They have changed my life and the lives of the 100s of others I’ve worked with.
Questions don’t attack. They don’t judge. They don’t assume.
They evoke curiosity. And most importantly, they bring forward your higher-thinking brain (you know, the part of your brain that actually cares about your future self) instead of relying on the part of your brain that just wants instant pleasure.
Three of my favourite questions are:
“What is the most important thing right now?”. That question brings clarity and calmness if I’m feeling overwhelmed. It also reminds me to be present with my family.
“What would make today great?“. That question helps me to be more intentional with my day, apart from just ticking things off my to-do list.
And, “What do I need right now?“. That question helps guide me to better choices when I have the urge to snack when I’m not hungry or find myself mindlessly scrolling through social media or any other habit that I won’t be happy about.
In this week’s podcast, I share these and seven more POWERFUL questions that have changed my life and can change yours too.
I’m glad you’re here!